She was lonely for as long as she could remember. She tried to fit in but never did mistakes after mistake all because she was lonely. At a young age she never belong only feeling safe around when her three little brothers, who she never knew as siblings....she had sisters and big brothers too.
She was playing with her cousins/siblings and have fun. Then Joe called a family meeting usually when they called family meetings she was not included. He said this time she could be apart of the meeting. She was excited and not worried cause she felt safe. It was fine. Her big brother said she was their sister, that her mommy and daddy were not her parents. At first she thought they meant in Gods way that was her answer" Yes were are all brothers and sisters in Gods way" he told her no they were really brother and sister. Panic arose from the pit of her stomach she heard screaming and crying the room was spinning she was seven years old. Her whole world was her parents. She love her Dad and Mom they went to all her school functions, helped her with her homework, Daddy read every night if they were not her parents who would do these things? At seven years of age that is about as deep as you get...
Her brothers and sisters took it as rejection. They thought she would love them more. Be happy to have brothers and sisters. She was excited and happy after she realized she wouldn't have to live with them she would not loss her beloved mother and father.
Family adoption is never easy I am a child of a family adoption. I can see the damage it did to myself and my siblings. I believe if you adopt within family be open but not to open. The bio parents have to step back their love for that child must be so strong that they let go. I believe the family should all love that child enough not to make things worse. If the mothers have a healthy relationship that is the best thing. If not this will not work I know my mothers had a hidden secrets that ruined our lives. My adopted mom had a big heart always helped anyone who needed a meal or a place to stay. She made sure to live life to the fullest. She always encouraged me and praised me more than I deserved. She was the best mother any one person could have. She would tell me I was special because out of all the babies she pick me I was born four days after her birthday! Her birthday present.
My father always worked hard and showed me how to work at a young age he taught me how to set goals and reach them. Every good thing in me I owe to my parents. I wish all my brothers and sisters would of had them for parents. I am grateful to my Bio mom she did the right thing she gave me to the best parents ever. They were not perfect but the are pretty darn close. I think if someone out there is considering adopting within family be smart make a plan with the entire family.
My father's family never discussed that I was adopted within the family my cousins never knew.
My mother's family knew and twisted the knife in my mothers back making her sad. I only with they knew every time they acknowledge my aunt as my mother they broke my beautiful mother's heart. If only I knew as much as I do now I would make her feel special everyday. I know that God has her and she is no longer hurting for the kingdom of Heaven belongs to the meek.. she loved everyone and had taken care of all of her two older sisters kids. she never asked for a thank you she just loved thank you mom for being that person that loves quietly and thoughly...
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